Marriage could last if the spouses will work for it
We have seen many marriages that just went to the drain. Most of us have talked to many children suffering from the trauma of a meaningless break-up in marriage. And we heard stories that ending a marriage brings more sorrows than joy.
We know that divorce, legal separation and mere break-ups are continuously happening. When marriage is devastated and the spouses say goodbye, it pains to note that the children cried, deeply inside. It is not true that only the parents have to start a new journey. The worst scenario is that the children, most especially the young ones, have to face that grim reality. Lives must go on, this time, with a shaky foundation. They have come to realize that a vow, which is said to last until death, could just end because of a slight misunderstanding over simple matters.
The cause are just simple matters! And what are these called simple matters? Is it pride? Shortage of money to meet the family’s needs? Jealousy which is unfounded or a litany of other useless issues? These are some of the very simple reasons which spark a fight, added with more simple reasons, and more other simple reasons, ending to a major catastrophe! And who cares who suffers? As long as this marriage has to end, so be it……no matter what others would say……about a marriage which is born right, but wrongfully dies!
If you are asked what happens, you may say, it is a hopeless situation and must end that way. I have to let them know that I am right! I am the offended party and I just kicked the bastard out! I can stand alone! Yes, I can survive!
What a heck!
A lasting marriage could be attained, not because it is the duty and responsibility of each spouse according to one’s belief or conviction, but most important, a healthy, dynamic, responsive and meaningful marriage could be accomplished because both the spouses have the capability to do so.
Dear Abby shared the “Ten Rules of a Happy Marriage”which keeps marriages to go on until Silver Wedding Anniversaries are celebrated.
Here it goes:
Rules of a Happy Marriage
1.Never both be angry at the same time.
2.Never yell at each other unless the house is on fire.
3.Never bring up mistakes of the past.
4.Never go to sleep with an argument unsettled.
5.Neglect the world rather than each other.
6.If one of you has to win an argument, let it be your mate.
7.If you have to criticize, do it lovingly.
8.When you have done something wrong, be ready to admit it and ask forgiveness.
9.At least once everyday try to say one kind or complimentary thing to your life’s partner.
10. It takes two to make a quarrel, and the one who is wrong is the one who does the most talking.
These “Rules of a Happy Marriage” could be interpreted in numerous ways. But when marriage is in the brink of devastation, we always remember a very meaningful declaration during the wedding rite:“Marriage isn’t just a ritual……it is a pledge, a promise, a sacred trust…..to love and be loved….for better or for worse.”